In my 31 years, ableism and fetishization have permeated a fair share of my relationships because of my intersecting identities as a queer Latina. These sexualized stereotypes are untrue, unkind, and dangerous, and yet they’ve still always made me feel desirable — even if for seriously problematic reasons. So nothing could prepare me for how this would drastically change when my disability started requiring me to use a power chair part time.
